What Birth Mothers Want You to Know

1. This Is Hard

Being a birthmother is not easy. Adoptive parents are often met with praise and admiration in society, but birth mothers don’t have the same experience. After adoption birthmothers not only have to deal with issues of bereavement, but also manage their status in society as a woman who placed her child.

2. Your Understanding Means The World

Birthmothers need to hear encouraging words from their chosen adoptive family. Sharing updates and love is appreciated through the adoption journey.

3. Things Change

Whether you start with a loose open adoption plan or a more structured relationship, it can develop and change overtime. Maintaining communication and respecting agreements is vital to a beautiful relationship.

4. Don’t Be Afraid To Reach Out

The adoption journey comes down to communication. It’s important for the birthmother and adoptive family to develop a bond. It’s also important to be respectful of space. Don’t be afraid to reach out, plan visits, and send emails or photos.